a certified life coach specializing in self-compassion, healing and
No matter what challenges you are facing in your life, you can
experience more joy and fulfillment as you learn how to treat
yourself with compassion.
How does self-compassion differ from self-esteem?
skill that grows stronger the more you practice.
Self-esteem, on the other hand, is situational. It is based on what you do and your performance in the world. Self-esteem is important because it largely determines your level of success and your ability to achieve your goals. Your feelings of self-esteem indicate how well you are able to meet the challenges of life. Self-esteem often fluctuates, and it can be affected by many factors in the outer world.
Many of us have experienced having our self-esteem shattered by a traumatic event that leaves us less able to cope with the challenges of life. At times like this, self-compassion can heal us. Self-compassion is not dependent on anything or anyone outside of us. It is a skill that we can practice every day of our lives. Practicing self-compassion can also help us regain our self-esteem.
Self-compassion is more than self-care. It's not just about taking bubble baths or buying gifts for yourself when you're feeling down. And it's not just about soothing yourself when you've been hurt, although that is helpful. Research shows that people with high levels of self-compassion do take better care of themselves. But self-compassion is way beyond self-care and self-soothing. It has to do with self-discipline and taking responsibility for how you create your own life. It involves deep healing and personal growth work. Anything less than that is spiritual bypassing.
Above all, self-compassion is not self-pity. Developing self-compassion is hard work. The processes that I teach require time and effort. They require the ability to think clearly and the willpower to change your habits of thought and action. Ideally, these processes should be practiced every day until they become second nature. The benefits of self-compassion come as a result of doing the work.
How can self-compassion coaching change your life?
One of my areas of expertise is narcissistic abuse recovery. I went through several abusive relationships before I developed enough assertiveness to put an end to abuse once and for all. I have many tools for helping people regain their self-esteem. I also do other types of relationship coaching like improving existing relationships or preparing for dating. Good relationships start with self-compassion. I teach people how to set boundaries and overcome codependency while increasing their self-confidence and relationship skills. Another area of expertise is spiritual growth and faith transitions. My own faith transition involved many years of study, deep soul-searching, and profound spiritual experiences, including a near-death experience and many lucid dreams. I understand the ambivalence that can accompany a major shift in one's map of reality, and I enjoy helping people progress though the levels of cognitive development. I also have experience in coping with chronic health problems. In my own body, I have dealt with autoimmune disease and chronic pain for many years. In my search for a cure, I studied alternative medicine for 15 years. I'm not trained in the medical field, so I can't give medical advice. However, I can share my knowledge and provide support for you in following a healthy diet and lifestyle.
Most importantly, I can teach you how to develop self-compassion, regardless of the state of your health. Self-compassion is an effective health practice in my own life.
What processes are used in self-compassion coaching?
The foundation of self-compassion is awareness. The time-tested, proven way to increase awareness is through meditation. As a life coach, I teach many different forms of meditation. If you haven't yet found one that works for you, I can introduce you to some new practices. With so many types of meditation to choose from, you're sure to find one that you love.
A hypnotherapist once told me that all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. Likewise, I believe that all coaching is self-coaching. My intention is to teach you processes that you can use for the rest of your life to coach yourself. Once you've learned the basic processes, you can adapt them to any situation.
Before contacting me, please read the article called What is Life Coaching? to make sure that we are on the same page. If you feel ready to move ahead with life coaching, click here for a free consultation.
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