a certified life coach specializing in self-compassion and healing.
No matter what challenges you are facing in your life, you can
experience more joy and fulfillment as you learn how to treat
yourself with compassion.
How does self-compassion differ from self-esteem?
skill that grows stronger the more you practice. It can never be
taken away from you because it transcends physical reality.
Self-esteem, on the other hand, is situational. It is based on what you do and your performance in the world, as well as other factors such as how you look and feel, and how other people treat you. Many of us have experienced having our self-esteem shattered by a traumatic event. At times like this, self-compassion is the only thing that can heal us. Self-compassion is not dependent on anything or anyone outside of us. It's a skill we can practice every day of our lives.
Self-compassion is more than just self-care. It's not about taking bubble baths or buying gifts for yourself when you're feeling down. And it's not just about soothing yourself when you've been hurt, although that is helpful. Research shows that people with high levels of self-compassion do take better care of themselves. But self-compassion is way beyond self-care and self-soothing. It has to do with self-discipline and taking responsibility for how you create your own life. It involves deep healing and personal growth work. Anything less than that is spiritual bypassing. The foundation of self-compassion is awareness. The time-tested, proven way to increase awareness is through meditation. As a life coach, I teach many different forms of meditation. If you haven't yet found one that works for you, I can introduce you to some new practices. With so many types of meditation to choose from, you're sure to find one that you love.
How can self-compassion coaching change your life?
One of my areas of expertise is narcissistic abuse recovery. I went through several abusive relationships before I developed enough assertiveness and self-compassion to put an end to abuse once and for all. I have many tools for helping people regain their feelings of self-worth. Believe it or not, you can end up wiser and stronger than you were before the abuse ever happened. For more details, see my article on narcissistic abuse coaching. I also do other types of relationship coaching like improving existing relationships or preparing for dating. Good relationships start with self-compassion. I teach people how to set boundaries and overcome codependency while increasing their self-confidence and relationship skills.
I'm very familiar with the stages of the grieving process. I know that grieving is often necessary, and I don't rush people through anything. I help them work through their own process at their own pace. I'm an empath, and I've done lots of work with emotional healing.
Another area of expertise is spiritual growth and faith transitions. My own faith transition involved many years of study, deep soul-searching, and profound spiritual experiences, including a near-death experience and many lucid dreams. I understand the ambivalence that can accompany a major shift in one's map of reality, and I know how helpful it can be to have support during this time. I also have experience in coping with chronic health problems. In my own body, I have dealt with autoimmune disease and chronic pain for many years. In my search for a cure, I studied alternative medicine for 15 years. I'm not trained in the medical field, so I can't give medical advice. However, I can share my knowledge and provide support for you in following a healthy diet and lifestyle.
Most importantly, I can teach you how to develop self-compassion, regardless of the state of your health. Self-compassion is an effective health practice in my own life.
What processes are used in self-compassion coaching?
A hypnotherapist once told me that all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. Likewise, I believe that all coaching is self-coaching. My intention is to teach you processes that you can use for the rest of your life to coach yourself. Once you've learned the basic processes, you can adapt them to any situation.
My job as a life coach is to support you in your own growth process. I believe that every person is unique. I love experimenting and discovering what works for you. There's no right or wrong way to do anything. If one thing doesn't work, we can try another!
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