by Diane Linsley
which is the idea that you attract things in the outer world that
match the vibration of your inner state.
We learned about the emotional scale, which lists 22 different
emotional states in order from highest to lowest. The higher on
the emotional scale you are, the more "good stuff" you attract - relationships, things and experiences.
We were taught many different coaching processes to help clients shift their emotional state and move up the emotional scale, and we practiced these processes until they became second nature.
My own life improved as I learned how to control my emotional state and raise my vibration. I got over some of my emotional codependency as I practiced choosing my own vibration instead of giving away my power to other people and circumstances. This was especially helpful for me as an empath. I realized that I could be happy whenever I chose to - not just when I got what I wanted. My level of freedom increased as my awareness increased.
What is Joy?
The emotions at the top of the emotional scale are Joy, Knowledge, Empowerment, Freedom, Love, Gratitude and Peace. I think of these 7 emotions as different flavors of the same vibration. They all go together. If you practice one, the others also become stronger. Joy isn't the same as happiness. Happiness is lower on the emotional scale. You can be happy or unhappy about something. If you have enough awareness, you can choose to be happy. But happiness is usually fleeting and circumstantial. Joy is beyond circumstances. You can experience joy even when you are suffering because joy has more to do with the soul. Bill Harris says that a highly aware person can choose their emotional state at any given moment. When I first heard Bill say this, I really didn't believe him. I thought that emotions just happened to me, and I couldn't control them. But after many years of self-observation and experimentation, I wholeheartedly agree with Bill.
The secret to choosing your emotions is to develop the Witness. Once you become very good at watching yourself, you will discover that there is a brief moment right before you react emotionally. In this moment, you make a choice. If you do not have enough awareness, the choice is made for you by your unconscious programming and your habitual patterns.
You can change your emotional habits with daily practice. The motivation for making this change comes when you truly understand how your vibration is attracting every experience in your life. You will have more control over your life as you increase your emotional intelligence.
Egoic Desires Versus Soul Growth
Some of my fellow students at the coaching academy lost heart when they didn't get what they wanted after trying for several months to raise their vibration. Some people said that Law of Attraction was a Band-Aid approach and not a permanent solution to life's problems.
This fascinated me because I never expected Law of Attraction to be the answer to all my problems. I believe that problems are designed for the growth of our souls. As soon as we overcome one problem, another one comes along to take us to the next level. It's not possible to get rid of all problems.
However, I also believe that greater awareness gives you more choice. In fact, with enough awareness, you can choose some of your own problems. You might refer to these chosen problems as "goals."
I also believe that my soul chose certain situations before I incarnated in order to maximize my growth at the Earth school. I believe that my soul has choice, and I'm not a victim of other people or random accidents. I chose this belief several years ago because it is empowering.
I believe that my soul chose my parents because there were challenges in that situation that matched what I needed to learn. I've been on Earth long enough to look back at my life and see how everything that happened in my past led to where I am today. Calling the past "bad" would deny the good that came from it. It was a difficult situation, to be sure. But that doesn't make it inherently bad.
My ego and my soul often have different agendas. The ego wants money, power, comfort, and many other things. But the soul wants growth. I see my job as trying to align my ego with my soul's purpose. This is the path that leads to Peace and Joy.
Joy is something you can choose as soon as you wake up in the morning, before anything happens to you in the physical world. With consistent practice, joy can become your set point - your normal, everyday vibration and your comfort zone. Some part of you can always exist in joy - even when the world is falling apart. Joy isn't something that happens to you. It's something you create.
People who live in joy can experience any emotional state at any time in response to circumstances, but they simultaneously feel joy at the core of who they are.
Affirmations for Joy
Here are some beliefs and attitudes of the joyful person. If you like, you can adopt them as affirmations to practice raising your own vibration:
I am free to choose how I respond to any situation. This knowledge empowers me and helps me to face my life with courage and joy.
I can choose to love myself and others - no matter what is happening and regardless of how others feel about me. No one can force me to hate or be negative when I want to be loving and joyful. I alone choose my emotional state. I'm so grateful that I have this choice.
I feel joy when I think about how much I am learning in this lifetime. I'm grateful for this unique opportunity to expand my soul's knowledge and experience. I'm excited to think that someday I will look back at my life and understand what it was all about. I'm grateful to live in a time when there are so many opportunities for gaining knowledge and so much freedom to experiment.
I feel a sense of peace knowing that my soul is in charge of my life, instead of my ego. I'm grateful for the guidance that I receive from the spirit world - even when I'm not aware of it. I am surrounded by loving beings who have my best interests at heart. I'm at peace knowing that I am loved and supported.
I know that I can feel peace and joy by raising my vibration during meditation or quiet times in nature. With practice, I can enter into a state of peace and joy at any moment, no matter what is happening around me. I'm grateful to be learning these skills.
When I wake up in the morning, I can decide to live the day in joy. This is my purpose - to make choices with awareness. As each day passes into history, it is sealed with the vibration that I give it. I love knowing that I can fill every day with joy.
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