Healing Collective Trauma
by Diane Linsley
The individual is a microcosm of society. This means that the pattern
of development of society mirrors that of an individual. The main
difference is that society changes slowly compared to the individual,
who is free to develop at his or her own pace.
Society is made of up individuals at different stages of cognitive development, which is why it is so conflicted. The gap between the most highly developed individuals and the most underdeveloped is huge, as you may have noticed. But no matter where you are in your own development, you are still affected by what is happening in society at large.
The tactics being used to terrorize people right now are similar to the tactics that narcissists use to terrorize their victims, and the results are the same - fear, social withdrawal, depression and physical illness. Here are some ideas for collective trauma recovery, based on the principles that I teach to clients who are recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Steps for Collective Trauma Recovery
1. Get educated. Most people still don't understand what is happening. Narcissists isolate their victims and distract them with propaganda, while turning them against each other. See the links in my article on freedom for more information.
2. Get support. Create close, loving relationships with others. Now is the time to reunite with friends and family members. I'm not advocating going back to abusive relationships. More than ever, you need loving and supportive relationships. If you don't have them already, create new ones.
As Maria Popova explains in this Brain Pickings article, isolation is a classic technique used by totalitarian governments to seize power. Here's a quote from the article:
"Terror can rule absolutely only over men who are isolated against each other… Therefore, one of the primary concerns of all tyrannical government is to bring this isolation about. Isolation may be the beginning of terror; it certainly is its most fertile ground; it always is its result." ~Hannah Arendt
Our nervous systems are co-regulated by the people we are in close proximity to, especially our intimate partner. Be aware of how your body reacts to other people. Surround yourself with those who help to calm your nervous system. Be a calming force in the lives of others. 3. Love yourself. Your immune system and your brain work best when you are calm, peaceful and loving. Practice self-compassion. Take measures to reduce your anxiety.
Simply doing what you enjoy is one of the best ways to fight against those who are trying to keep you fearful and sick. Narcissists hate it when you are happy!
5. Find a way to serve others. When your life purpose involves loving and serving others, you don't have time to be depressed.
6. Reach out to the spirit world through prayer, meditation and contemplation. Trust in God, angels, spirit guides, and your higher self. There are powerful forces on your side. You are not alone!
I recently had a lucid dream in which an angel said to me, "My good lady, you were not given this life to despair. Be of good cheer...." She then told me exactly what I needed to focus on. You can't get more direct than that.
This dream came after I spent the early morning meditating and praying. Then I put myself back to sleep, asking for a dream to give me guidance. Lucid dreaming is a powerful spiritual practice. 7. Think Integral. There are good people in every religion and spiritual group. Other groups are not your enemies. If spiritual people want to maintain their freedom of speech (which is now being threatened - see this article at Citizens for Free Speech), they need to support others in this cause. Integral thinkers transcend group-think and build bridges of understanding.
Individuality and Spirituality
Over the course of humanity's evolution, we have been gradually moving towards individuality, away from group-think. This is a long process - often with two steps forward and one step back. We each have a responsibility to create a personal connection with Spirit. We are not meant to be children or sheeple forever, but to develop our own souls.
There's nothing wrong with belonging to a group. In fact, it is sometimes necessary. But the group can't do your spiritual work for you. And sadly, there are "false prophets" and hypocrites in every group. You can learn how to recognize them by their words and actions.
I recently heard a New Age teacher say that we don't need material possessions or individuality anymore because we have transcended the need for such low things. She proclaimed this teaching as she sat in her fancy house, surrounded by material possessions. How obvious can hypocrisy get?
Here's another example. A preacher claimed that Jesus would not visit his grandparents, but would obey the isolation protocols. That's not the Jesus I know from the scriptures! The real Jesus spoke out against corrupt leaders, and he taught people to love and serve each other. Not to mention, the real Jesus healed people. He didn't avoid lepers because of a fear of getting sick.
According to esoteric Christianity, Jesus Christ brought the "I am" to the earth, which made it possible for us to develop as individual souls.
A Mature Ego
As I explain in the article, Soul Development, we are here to mature the ego - not to destroy it and become mindless automatons, which would enable others to control us. To continue with our soul's development, we must have the courage to think for ourselves. I enjoy watching JP Sears, who often makes videos on this topic. You can't kill the ego, but you can transcend it by becoming more aware. According to integral philosopher Ken Wilber, transcend means "transcend and include." It doesn't mean destroy.
Self-transcendence doesn't mean getting rid of the self. It means that your perspective and actions extend beyond your individual self to include all of humanity. You love your neighbor as yourself.
At the core of every good spiritual map is the goal of transcending the ego (not killing it) by helping it reach its full potential. Only a person with a strong sense of "I am" can act with awareness. My favorite process for developing this awareness is Voice Dialogue.
If your enlightenment doesn't include developing a healthy and mature ego, you will simply end up as an enlightened doormat.
Vandana Shiva says, "I don't think we have the luxury to be hopeless. Hope is something you must cultivate on a daily basis."
"We must eradicate from the soul
All fear and terror of what comes towards man out of the future.
We must acquire serenity
In all feelings and sensations about the future.
We must look forward with absolute equanimity
To everything that may come.
And we must think only that whatever comes
Is given to us by a world-directive full of wisdom,
It is part of what we must learn in this age,
Namely, to live out of pure trust,
Without any security in existence.
Trust in the ever-present help
Of the spiritual world.
Truly, nothing else will do
If our courage is not to fail us.
And let us seek the awakening from within ourselves
Every morning and every evening."
This awakening from within can't be given to you by anyone else. You must seek for it and find it in your own heart. This is the core teaching of the great spiritual traditions, although it may be obscured by the outer teachings. The esoteric truth is hidden inside of you. What safer place could God have put it?
Here's a video of Carl G. Jung describing his first experience of "I am" and explaining why individuality is imperative in a technological society. Jung was an early explorer of shadow material. Hal Stone, creator of Voice Dialogue, was a Jungian psychologist. Here's a message of hope from Robert F. Kennedy, Jr. I'm so grateful for people who are working to defend our freedoms.
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